Here are some ways to break up with your boyfriend:

  1. Choose a private location: It’s important to choose a private location where you can talk without distractions 1.
  2. Be honest: Tell him how you feel and why you want to break up. Be clear and concise, but also be kind and respectful 12.
  3. Choose the right time: Choose a time when both of you can talk in private without distractions. Wait until the end of the day rather than doing it first thing in the morning before he has to face a full day of school or work. If possible, do it on a Friday so that both of you can have the weekend to deal with your feelings privately 1.
  4. Be prepared: Before having the talk, go over the reasons you want to break up and rehearse what you’ll say. When you’re ready, do it in person if you can. Be as clear as possible and don’t leave things open to interpretation, since this may give him false hope 13.
  5. Be respectful: Try to end with a kind or positive statement before you part ways 1.
  6. Don’t rush into it: Give yourself time to think things over before losing your boyfriend. You may realize you want to resolve things with him, or your perspective on the situation may change 1.
  7. Don’t wait too long: While it’s important to give yourself time to think things over, don’t put off the conversation once you’re sure it’s what you want. Dragging it out will be harder on him in the long-run, or the information may leak out and he ends up hearing the news from someone else 3.
  8. Don’t break up during a fight: In the heat of an argument, it’s easy to say things that you don’t mean. Give yourself time to think things over before losing your boyfriend 1.
  9. Be sympathetic: Acknowledge that it will cause pain on both sides. Allow yourself to grieve the relationship 2.
  10. Don’t shame or blame the other person: Avoid responding to arguments. Make a clean break in order to create distance 2.

Please note that breaking up is hard and the best way to respect your relationship and him is to break up face-to-face 1. It is important to consult with a healthcare provider to determine the best birth control method for you 1.